When Someone Judges You Based on Your Health, Thank Them and Then Help Them.

Recently someone in my life judged me based on my health. This person didn’t mean any harm, but it still hurt. If anyone ever judges you based on a health issue, step back and realize this: Being labeled can be a blessing in disguise. In fact, the next time someone marks you “the sick person,” thank them and then help them. Here’s why.

Three Important Reminders the Next Time Someone Labels You Based On Your Health

Answers are powerful. First and foremost, if you have a health issue, this means you also have answers. You are one of the lucky ones who knows what’s going on inside your body. A doctor has given you a diagnosis, a reason why you have your symptoms. Too many people are still searching for their health answers. Some people are too scared to start the search. Be grateful that you have answers.

Living a proactive life. Because you have answers, you can take steps towards a healthier life. You have the clarity to take charge of your body. Whether it’s finding the right medicine, considering surgery, changing your diet, managing stress levels, or seeing a therapist, you have the power to make positive changes to your well-being. Be grateful that you have made your health a priority.

Your strength is addictive. Let’s face it. You’ve already dealt with enough health issues for a lifetime. Whether you are aware of it or not, you are stronger and braver than most of the people in your life. You should be incredibly grateful for this. Whether you know it or not, people in your life see your strength and are empowered by your health journey. Now, it is your time to give back. For those who don’t have answers and aren’t ready to live a proactive life, you can help them by sharing your experiences.

Remember that everyone is on their own journey. Maybe the person who judges you has unresolved health concerns, and it’s easier to judge you instead of assessing their self. The health concerns don’t even have to be physical. Maybe they are dealing with self-doubt or self-confidence issues. Whatever it is, now I see that I need to be there for them. So, when someone judges me based on my health, I am going to thank them and then help them. I’ve been on the journey of self-introspection, something that is scary for people. I have come out on the other end a more self-aware, confident, and compassionate person who knows her label. Now it’s my turn to help my loved ones find their label.

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Crohn's Disease Flare-Up

Fearing a Crohn’s Disease Flare-Up Clouds Our Reality

I have trained myself to think everything that I physically feel inside my body is related to Crohn’s Disease. While it is necessary to be hyper-aware of my body and in tune with any changes, it has caused unnecessary anxiety and fear. I want to share the following story with you to explain what I mean.

This past week I woke up in the middle of the night with terrible pain in my abdomen. For the next few days, my stomach felt icky and achy. I was having diarrhea and minor urging. In my mind, this was the beginning of a Crohn’s flare-up. My anxiety and stress went through the roof. I started preparing myself for the inevitable steroid regimen, weight loss, fatigue, canceling plans, and figuring out if Remicade has stopped working. However, by the weekend I realized the dull, achy pain wasn’t coming from my colon, but from my stomach. So I rested, drank soothing tea, and ate bland foods. Within a day the diarrhea was gone, and the achy feeling was slowly going away. In the end, it appeared to be a bout of the stomach flu.

I share this story with you because I realize I am too quick to jump to conclusions with my health and maybe you are also. From years of constant flare-ups, I now have trouble controlling anxiety related to Crohn’s Disease. By assuming that every physical feeling inside my body is related to my autoimmune disease, I am opening myself up to a constant state of fear and anxiety. When looking back at this past week it is now clear that the symptoms I was experiencing were not colon related, but the fear of a flare-up blinded me. I could not see the reality for what it was. In turn, I could not take the necessary steps to get better, at least not immediately. I also put myself through an enormous amount of stress that could have been avoided.

Again, it is essential for all of us to be hyper-aware of our bodies and any changes that may happen. However, we cannot let this rule our life or blind us from reality. How do we do this? Our first step is to lessen the fear of getting a flare-up. If we stop being so scared of flaring up, we won’t let anxiety blind us in every health-related issue. How do we lessen the fear of getting a flare-up? We look at the past. I have always gotten through every flare-up as hard as it may have been. I have continually come out on the other end a stronger and healthier individual. Life goes on. A flare-up is not the worst thing in the world after all. And if the past week’s symptoms were the beginning of a flare-up, that would have been okay. I would have gotten through it.

So I want us all to remember that we must not live in fear of this disease. This fear gets in the way of our physical and mental health. Our lives are too precious to live like that.

You may also be interested in “Why I Am Grateful For Crohn’s Disease” and “Crohn’s Disease 101: Everything the World Should Know”