I didn’t always love to read. I grew up with a reading comprehension learning disability, so books were my enemy for a long time. It was only when I graduated college that I fell in love with fiction novels and a whole new world opened up to me. I caught up on years of amazing book series that I missed out on like Harry Potter and Robert Langdon. Reading novels became an incredible way to learn about myself. I always seem to find a part of myself in every character I read about. Whatever adventure they go on, heartbreak they feel, or struggle they persevere through, I can connect it to something in my life and learn from their story.
Recently, I have added some incredible self help books to my home library and I want to share some of my favorites with you. Let me start by defusing the stereotype of people who read self help books. You may judge these people by assuming they are troubled, hurt, weak, helpless or lost. These are common stereotypes in society for anyone seeking help. I am here to tell you once and for all that these people are, in fact, the strongest humans on the planet. They are the people who want to be better, grow, conquer fears and insecurities, become a better friend, sister, mother, or partner, excel at work, gain personal power, overcome ego, learn gratitude, and overall live a happier life. These are honest people who want to work towards their higher self.
Self help books, personal transformation books, motivational books, or whatever you want to call them are an insider’s guide to surviving life on Planet Earth. Think about it. You’re getting inside information about life from people who have already failed, suffered, hit rock bottom, survived, thrived, and conquered. The lessons have already been learned, so you’re getting a massive head start on life. Why not soak up all that information from fellow humans who have been there and done that? You’re getting decades worth of invaluable lessons in a few hundred pages.
For me, I struggle with finding my personal power and letting go of ego so that I can think and act of my own fruition. I sometimes find myself stuck solving other people’s problems, living other people’s lives, and making decisions based on the world around me. This causes me so much unnecessary anxiety, fear, and worry. So I want to ask you to be honest with yourself. What is holding you back from being your best self? What self-sabotaging behavior or thoughts do you need to address? What can you do today to be better than you were yesterday?
Below are four of my favorite books that have helped me so much this year.
Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R. Hawkins M.D. Ph.D.
This book was the first self-help book I read and it changed my life. Dr. Hawkins is a psychiatrist who spent years studying ways to relieve human suffering. He found that surrender has the greatest practical benefit to relieving obstacles to Enlightenment and becoming free of negativity. He gives easy and effective ways of letting go in everyday life. This book is a must-read for every human being on the planet.
The Motivation Manifesto: 9 Declarations to Claim Your Personal Power by Brendon Burchard.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who feels at the mercy of work, family, social media, or obligations. This book has helped me gain freedom from the grip the outside world has on me. You will learn that the key to a happier life is taking your life into your own hands. Before you can claim your personal power, you have to relieve yourself from other people’s demands. This is something I work on every single day.
Codependant No More: How to Stop Controlling Others & Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie.
The bible for all you codependants out there! If someone else’s problem is your problem or you try to control the people in your life using the excuses of “love and concern” or you describe your feelings based on how other people are feeling, you may be codependant. It’s time to live your own life and stop tending to someone else’s. This book will be eye opening and incredibly freeing to you.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson.
When has the saying, “Just be positive and smile”, ever helped you? Let’s be honest, life is hard and striving for constant positivity just isn’t realistic. This hilariously honest book encourages you to embrace your fears and faults so that you can find true courage and happiness.
There are thousands of self-help books for you to choose from, so find ones that greet you where you’re at in life. Remember, life is a journey and it’s supposed to be hard sometimes. It’s what you do during the struggles that are the defining moments of your journey. Continue being honest with yourself no matter how hard that can be. You are worth it. You are enough. Do something to be a better you.